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I saw this on MSN TODAY "How to Fight Right"
Here are 23 phrases that help turn down the heat of anger:
- Please try to understand my point of view.
- Wait, can I take that back?
- You don’t have to solve this—it helps me just to talk to you.
- This is important to me.
- Please listen.
- I overreacted.
- I see you’re in a tough position.
- I can see my part in this.
- I hadn’t thought of it that way before.
- I could be wrong.
- Let’s agree to disagree on that.
- This isn’t just your problem; it’s our problem.
- I’m feeling unappreciated. [Always, my craving for gold stars!]
- We’re getting off the subject.
- You’ve convinced me.
- Let’s take a break for a few minutes. [If you can remember to do this, it’s extremely effective—especially if you’re having a big fight. After a break, it’s almost impossible to go back to yelling.]
- Please keep talking to me.
- I realize it's not your fault.
- That came out all wrong.
- I see how I contributed to the problem.
- What are we really fighting about?
- How can I make things better?
- I’m sorry.
- I love you.
I actually get tears in my eyes when I read this list. Such is the uplifting power of fighting right.
Also, to fight right, it’s very important to respond well if your sweetheart makes a repair attempt—the technical term for a gesture of reconciliation and love. Don’t rebuff a repair attempt!
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